tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post117021879001645036..comments2023-12-01T10:53:44.750-08:00Comments on Against All Heresies: The Accidental HousewifeM. Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11628512667279950596noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1171932675712271502007-02-19T16:51:00.000-08:002007-02-19T16:51:00.000-08:00Narwen said: "Let them do the best they can. If th...Narwen said: "Let them do the best they can. If they don't do it, it doesn't get done. Simple enough."<BR/><BR/>Simple enough for you - sure, but you're not the one suffering. The kids are suffering, and that's hardly fair. <BR/><BR/>Get a life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1171920065582016222007-02-19T13:21:00.000-08:002007-02-19T13:21:00.000-08:00And your point ? Let them do the best they can. I...< It's not a job (raising kids/running the household) that is done well by men. They just don't have the level of detail/interest in it. ><BR/>And your point ? Let them do the best they can. If they don't do it, it doesn't get done. Simple enough.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015745990344837357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1171571234077958302007-02-15T12:27:00.000-08:002007-02-15T12:27:00.000-08:00I was also a liberated feminist choosing a career ...I was also a liberated feminist choosing a career in a field mostly dominated by men. I did marry but waited 8 years before having my socially acceptabel two children. And I had my tubes tied. My Catholic doctor had no problem with that. My pastor said those things were a 'matter of conscience'. I had no conscience was the thing, going 19 yers between confessions.<BR/><BR/>Then Our Lady got a hold of me!<BR/><BR/>My marriage is my path to sancitification. I homeschooled for a while. My career is VERY part time. My prayer life is all the time.<BR/><BR/>Thanks be to God for rescuing me.Magdalenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12523226432587407685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1171292195255863342007-02-12T06:56:00.000-08:002007-02-12T06:56:00.000-08:00It's funny you should say that Narwen. The same th...It's funny you should say that Narwen. The same thing happened to my Grandmother- she had to get a job and raise 3 children alone. The local bank would not allow her to open a savings account without her husband's permission. She had a difficult time but she raised her family and they are all great adults. Strangely not one of them thinks that mothers should not stay home with their families in spite of the difficulties their mother faced. You don't take a hard case exception and let it destroy home life.M. Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11628512667279950596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1171233612242561592007-02-11T14:40:00.000-08:002007-02-11T14:40:00.000-08:00I grew up in the 70s so I was fed many lines, incl...I grew up in the 70s so I was fed many lines, including a woman should have a 'career'. I got a 'career' in Data Processing (now called IT), great money. They (feminists) neglected to tell me that once I got married, I'd have 2 jobs, one outside of the home and the other inside the home. Well, maybe you shouldn't get married, say the feminists.<BR/><BR/>Then, you only have one oe two kids because otherwise, how could afford daycare?<BR/><BR/>It's not a job (raising kids/running the household) that is done well by men. They just don't have the level of detail/interest in it.<BR/><BR/>I predict a big backlash of women choosing to stay home and raise their own kids.Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17970851228593550726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1171171197642535302007-02-10T21:19:00.000-08:002007-02-10T21:19:00.000-08:00Maybe it isn't a Catholic attitude, but it's an at...Maybe it isn't a Catholic attitude, but it's an attitude shaped by how the 'working world' treated my own mother when she became a widow with a young daughter. "Hire you ? You haven't worked in more than 10 years, lady !" <BR/>The job she finally got was more difficult, and paid a lot less, than the one she had dutifully given up as a new bride.<BR/>Sure, being a SAHM is great for the kids- but if the bottom drops out, through divorce, death, illness, or long-term unemployment, forget it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015745990344837357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1171062837781895462007-02-09T15:13:00.000-08:002007-02-09T15:13:00.000-08:00"Well, if some women want to stay home, they're we..."Well, if some women want to stay home, they're welcome.<BR/>Of course, in the era of no-fault divorce, they're playing financial Russian roulette."<BR/><BR/>Well, with tht attitude, you better stay on the job and keep that resume updated.Thomas Coolberthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18006353689817752538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170866406096083762007-02-07T08:40:00.000-08:002007-02-07T08:40:00.000-08:00Sometimes the husband must help around the house b...Sometimes the husband must help around the house because...well, not every wife is perhaps 'up to the task', if you will. And I know that there are things about me as a "provider" which my wife could well and justly complain.<BR/>But we each cover the other's blindness and shortcomings.<BR/>I'm not saying it's easy - picking up the slack. For both of us it's at times aggravating and frustrating. <BR/>But there's a shared and determined reason why it all somehow just gets done, defined and augmented by God's good grace in little, everyday necessities.<BR/>It's called love, and it really does work: if by our cooperation we are willing to set it to task.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170861362521319372007-02-07T07:16:00.000-08:002007-02-07T07:16:00.000-08:00Very true. I know many women whose husbands left ...Very true. I know many women whose husbands left them, but most states have alimony so that is not an issue or should not be. Most of them were financially set even after their divorce. <BR/><BR/>But I know after working as a high school teacher that a parent in the home is worth more socially than any other job. As a teacher, I could tell the kids who had a parent staying at home. It was that obvious!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170817887823124522007-02-06T19:11:00.000-08:002007-02-06T19:11:00.000-08:00Well, if some women want to stay home, they're wel...Well, if some women want to stay home, they're welcome. <BR/>Of course, in the era of no-fault divorce, they're playing financial Russian roulette.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015745990344837357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170817334131693632007-02-06T19:02:00.000-08:002007-02-06T19:02:00.000-08:00Narwen, When I worked before I had my baby, my hu...Narwen,<BR/><BR/> When I worked before I had my baby, my husband & I shared everything, if not equally, at least fairly, if that makes sense. <BR/><BR/> But, I feel if I am staying at home this is my job, not his, especially because he works just as hard as I do during the day. <BR/><BR/> This doesn't mean he doesn't help out with the kiddo, but I try to get things done so we can relax at night.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170817169941004172007-02-06T18:59:00.000-08:002007-02-06T18:59:00.000-08:00Of course, housekeeping is work. It's, IMHO, too d...Of course, housekeeping is work. It's, IMHO, too d*** much work, which is why it should be split between two people.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015745990344837357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170735627992742592007-02-05T20:20:00.000-08:002007-02-05T20:20:00.000-08:00I had to laugh when I read your post. It is funny...I had to laugh when I read your post. It is funny because while I always knew I wanted to stay at home like my mom stayed home for us, I did not want to be a "housewife." <BR/><BR/> It may seem like I was REALLY clueless and boy was I, but it took awhile for it to sink in and for me to accept that this "housewife" business is a lot of work. Once I accepted it, I decided to tackle it like I would all the other jobs I have held. <BR/><BR/> I am much happier and much better organized and I am at peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170557477909144072007-02-03T18:51:00.000-08:002007-02-03T18:51:00.000-08:00It's funny, but I've always wanted to be a wife an...It's funny, but I've always wanted to be a wife and mother. <BR/>When I got pregnant, and married at 17, people felt sorry for me, but in all honesty, I never felt I was missing out. I was happier than I'd ever been in my life. Still am!BlondeBloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05914759722134808069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170276981303708182007-01-31T12:56:00.000-08:002007-01-31T12:56:00.000-08:00I'll say the wife is a queen!And mine is Queen Vic...I'll say the wife is a queen!<BR/>And mine is Queen Victoria, the happy Matron of our little empire of 6 (living) princes and princesses.<BR/><BR/>(I suppose that makes me Prince Albert in the can.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20534374.post-1170272041459028422007-01-31T11:34:00.000-08:002007-01-31T11:34:00.000-08:00What a wonderful post!!!What a wonderful post!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com